It is amazing to me how things come into my life every once in a while if I just ‘allow’ them. Remember the old saying; “out of the mouths of babes”?
I finished and published my latest book recently, Live Your Life In A Crap Free Zone. While I wrote the book with a humorous and witty twist, there’s a whole chapter in it about fear; an emotion and thought process which I believe has the single most profound influence on our lives and the decisions we make.
About a week ago I came across an amazing video by Bianca Gaiever. In it she ‘interviews’ a six-year old boy and the child, perhaps unknowingly, imparts some wisdom we would all do well to listen to and use.
Fear stops people from doing a lot of things in life; everything from entering into a new and perhaps life-changing relationship with an awesome guy like me, to never ‘being‘ what you were supposed to ‘be’ in life. Fear is so pervasive in our lives that people, as I said in my book, are even more than willing to express it in countless forms every day.
“I’m afraid we can’t help you with that.”
“I’m afraid if I do that I’ll get hurt.”
“I’m afraid there’s nothing we can do.”
“I’m afraid if I go out with you I might really like you.”
“I’m afraid if I try to do ‘this’, (insert life-long dream), I might lose my job.”
“Be careful out there; it’s snowing.”
“Have a safe trip.”
You get the picture. How many of us have heard phrases like these all our lives? Fear will stop us in our tracks. Fear will make us back away. Fear will cause us to choose anything but what we really want.
I have a whole chapter about Advertising and Media in Live Your Life In A Crap Free Zone. Ironically, they prey on fear too; fear of what you don’t have, fear of not having the latest and greatest, fear of not keeping up, fear of inadequacy and lack.
It’s amazing how pervasive it is and what an influence this single word has on our lives. Yet here is a six-year old boy telling you how to get over that.
“Scared is scared of things you like.” He tells her this and it is a great response to her expression of fear that “it feels like her school is closing” because she is about to graduate. (Fear of change.)
Think of things you like, “pizza and cookies”, and fear goes away. Fear cannot live in an atmosphere deprived of fear. If you eliminate the fear in your life you would be amazed at what you can do and the different choices you can make. That is why I wrote Live Your Life In A Crap Free Zone. It’s a humorous, witty look at real life and choices.
Ethan Holmes is the author of five books; Earth’s Blood, The Keystone, A Multi-Pack of Brain Flakes, Shorts and Other Laundry and Live Your Life In A Crap Free Zone.
.Watch Scared is Scared here! Scared is Scared by Bianca Gaievers